COHABITATION

Nowadays, cohabitation becomes a popular phenomenon in the youth. They live together as wife and husband without getting married. Recently, just in ten days there are 13.500 readers join in online-test on VN Express with question “Should we cohabit?”. Although most of them have known both advantages and disadvantages of new life-style, it still has 7.600 readers (about 56 per cents) agree with it, only 36 per cents disagree. I think we shouldn’t cohabit before getting married because it will causes a lot of heavy impacts for us in the future.
First , cohabitation makes people free and unbridled ; emotion is harden .Moreover, it destroys love –the gift that God gave us .For example, when people love someone ,they want to live together and spend all their time on caring lovers .Everything seems to be very beautiful and romantic when they are in love. Day by day ,they gradually recognize bad habits of each other, so they feel disappointed .Then they break up .Next ,they find another sweetheart at once .After that ,everything repeats the same last love affair. For a long time, they won’t know what was love any more .At that time, for them, love is just new interesting adventures .It’s certainly sure that men never have a thinking getting married with women whom they had cohabit
Second, cohabitation causes a lot of effects for women’s health. Most of them are very young; they are still students .Thus they don’t have enough knowledge about reproductive health, and when they get unwanted pregnancies; they just go to hospital to take abortions. It’s very harmful and dangerous for them. Some of them maybe become childless after having abortions .Our country has the highest abortion rate in the world. That’s a result of cohabitation, and just women have to get effects.
However, it’s true that the reason of new life-style is a result of society’s movement .It’s a necessary trend of the youth today. There are three reasons for this trend .First, economic condition doesn’t allow them to celebrate weeding parties ,buy houses and hold family lives .Second, they live far away from home and parent’s control ,so they can do everything they like .Finally, they have a sexual desire must be satisfied. However, I think most of men are very selfish in love .Men want their lovers have to do all things for them but men don’t. Love and marriage are not the same thing in men’s mind .In fact, they want to love sincerely ,but they also don’t want their future wives to lose virgin .Now ,each of women can find the answer for question “should we cohabit?”
In short, only when we and our lover are sure that we can keep our love forever and will get married .Thus ,we can cohabit; if not we shouldn’t try it .It will make us hurt ,and maybe that hurt will follow us during our lives.Therefore,it had better for us not cohabit in any circumstances .That is the best way for women to have certainly happy life in the future.